You don’t just wake up one day and you are going to change your life. It rarely happens like that. You know I’m right because at least once a week women SAY they are going to start either a new diet, a new exercise routine, or vouch to do something in a new way BUT how many times have they said that exact same thing? A penny for each one and most women would be rich by now.
Some of us get a wake up call we wouldn’t wish on anyone (I did) and so I don’t want you to sit around and wait for one of those either. So what I want to share with you is the MOST IMPORTANT STAGE to any SIGNIFICANT life change, the very one MOST people ignore.
Also you MUST start with number one and progress in the exact order of progression if you want to NEVER go backwards. The problem with most formula’s for success is they don’t spend enough energy (if any) on this PREP (pre-transformational) stage (if at all) because, well, it can make us squirm and own our ‘stuff’.
YUK, ‘why put ourselves through more pain for crying out loud’ I hear you say.
No silly, wrong attitude, its WORTH IT I PROMISE!!!!!
We rush to push aside our ‘issues’ to hurry up and get to the good bit of the journey, where it’s easy going and the rewards are plenty. WRONG!!! WRONG!!! WRONG!!!
You will see the aftermath of those who habitually restart by skipping this step in the many frustrated people around you who are doing it that way, yet expecting to get life changing results.
Its not long lasting and just like an elastic band you will likely spring back to the old bar level of how far you usually get before you spring backwards. These people can become addicted to the search of the ever-elusive short cut formula to Break through to the other side, to cross their own belief barrier or ‘bar’ to find the longterm happiness and success they seek.
We must milk this stage dry before we move to the next. No short cuts and ready to play FULL OUT.
Well here is the missing STAGE 1 you HAVE TO go through to CHANGE YOUR LIFE or ACHIEVE BEYOND YOUR HIGHEST PREVIOUS LEVEL of ACHIEVEMENT:
MAKING PEACE WITH YOUR PAST to MOVE TOWARDS A HAPPY FUTURE (stay with me, it’ll be ok)
- ACCEPT what is and has been, by getting your life learnings however you have to.
- Dig deep to find out what you’ve been NOT aware of about yourself. What have you been denying? You see, we do know our own answers, we just shove them down and dumb ourselves down so we can NOT face our role in our own life past, EVEN if it was an UNCONSCIOUS ROLE we played we need to own it if we are to learn from it. If it was someone elses fault then we think ‘they’ have to get learnings, not us so that’s DISempowering. We still suffer you see. If we own our choice to ‘feel’ what we felt at least, we can ‘unfeel’ it if we look through new lenses. (see our Epigenetics page).
- List what you ‘feel’ from each Significant life event. Notice what these emotions are doing to you and how they effect you and what OTHER feelings they bring up, and how they link to CURRENT events (and they always do).
- Go all the way back through to early childhood and mark out them most significant emotional events in your life.
- Assess Your Life, honestly.
- Dig for your learnings from the ‘emotions’ rather than the ‘event’. What might you have MISread to make yourself feel so terrible that you can re-interpret to mean something different, something empowering to YOU. (stop the blame of anything and anyone before doing this process)
For example:- If you were hurt by the actions of a parent, your learnings COULD be:
It was THEIR interpretation and not necessarily the truth at all.
It could be THEY were treated that way and didn’t know any better so they simply did the only thing they knew to do.
They just didn’t value you and you may have misinterpreted it to mean YOU are NOT valuable just because THEY didn’t value you.
Don’t take it personally.
And so on and so on. Does that make sense?
(BTW. I know a method that takes literally minutes to draw your life learnings out of your subconscious mind as ‘undeniable ‘knowings’ as we guide you to ‘realise’ them as the TRUTH. Sounds a bit weird but hey, works as fast as clicking your fingers. You can investigate Creatrix® at http://www.instituteofwomen.com if you want)
7. Make Peace with yourself and others. I know you don’t want to hear this word most of you but FORGIVE yourself and others behaviours.
You see, forgiveness does not mean you condone their behaviour in any way shape or form and it doesn’t mean you even have to like the person. Forgiveness just means I’ll stop self-torturing myself over what this person did and set them free to have no control over my mind anymore THAT’S IT!!!!
From here you can move to where many success guru’s or coaches begin at the Take Responsibility stage and from there you can continue your journey taking BOLD and BRAVE charge of yourself, committing to owning your life fully and that includes all future choices.
Refuse to let anyone or anything sway you because now you KNOW you are valueable, have your life learnings only YOU are in control. You can’t any longer blame others, things or anything outside of yourself or else you will give up your power. Make a pledge to CAPTAIN YOUR OWN SHIP.
And the rest, well you can hang with me for the next steps or seek out a good life coach etc because the rest is about values, being true to yourself and recycling back to this FIRST STEP whenever you slip up. Try to avoid it and it’s backwards we go so REMEMBER NOW TO SET THE TIME ASIDE AND GIVE YOURSELF A CLEAN OUT.
Or get us to do it for you. Either way I wish you well on your journey to a happier and more peaceful yet successful life living your dreams.
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To your Limitless Success, Wealth and Happiness
Women’s Mindset Junkie and Transformationalist.
Over time women have accumulated blanketed layers of tainted perceptions that have buried incredibly innate superpowers deep within her core that we have not only forgotten how to access or use, but we’ve long forgotten that they exist at all. When we get back in touch with what I call our girl ‘superpowers’, we cannot doubt our worth, our level of influence, or the value of our contribution, as many women do today. If ever there was a time for women to rediscover their extraordinary essence, it is NOW. It’s time to reignite our spirit.
Most women have been lulled into a false sense of security and trust that the systems of authority in areas of expertise (medical research, politics, and education etc.) will find solutions to our female health and wellness issues.
My research has uncovered that 95-99% of these ‘bodies of knowledge’ were originally philosophically perceived, formulated, measured, modeled, discovered and determined by male minds. We cannot fully ever know what it’s like to be a male just as males cannot fathom what it’s like to be female, regardless of their area of expertise or authority. We have mistakenly been waiting for something that is not possible.
In order to heal our own minds and bodies and be able to function at our best we must first accept our deeper, underlying differences, which will empower us to become proactive in finding our own solutions. This will allow us to thrive, and celebrate our essence while forging a new path for future generations to follow.
A Woman’s limbic system is much larger than males and although some similarities, it almost seems to have a separate function for each sex. For women it’s the emotional interpretation centre that instructs our hormonal (endocrine) distribution centre to function according to these perceptions. Perception (and mis-perception) affects EVERYTHING and cause stress. This is important to know as it is the reason why and how we get ourselves ‘stuck’ and have problems unique to us.
Our limbic system is designed for that of a ‘creator-being’ that can create the egg of life, develop and nurture new life within itself and continue the maternal process outside of itself through naturally organic intuition and hormonal bonding (For example, A man may not know he is a father unless told, but it’s impossible for a mother to not know she is a mother). Women are built for love, not stress. The effects of stress hormones releasing overtime inside of a female body is messing with our design and its showing up as hormonal and emotional dysfunction. Frankly, we are not built for it.
It has been perceived that a brain is a brain, a mind is a mind and an emotion is an emotion, regardless of gender. While similar, the way in which women go about creating the emotion, the processing of information and functioning biologically and intuitively, both consciously and unconsciously is the key difference. This is the secret to UNcreating our own unique problems and creating new and unique solutions.
This is why the existing male developed mindset changing processes and success and happiness strategies are just not working for females. This is why I have broken new ground by creating a Women’s Genetic Breakthrough Process, it’s been long overdue. Remove tainted perceptions that cause unnecessary stresses (even inherited ones) and you reclaim your power and your body can get back to its originally designed functionality. Your female mind can be set free along with emotions and limiting beliefs that make you feel ‘less than’, ‘not enough’ or ‘insecure’.
Let us fathom ourselves and not forfeit our own power as it really does takes one to know one. We’ve seen it, we’ve heard it, we’ve read about it everywhere….the time of the woman is NOW!
WE are what WE have been waiting for!
WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL beings! This can mean when we are happy and free, our light is very bright and everyone around us is affected positively. With that energy we are ‘attractive’ from deep within which ripples outwards to be visible on the outside.
This effects those around us to the point of causing them to see their world through different lenses, therefore changing the potential of what others see as possible. This is the kind of role model and leader we ‘want’ to be and as women, there is always a level of influence we have on others, especially little humans still developing and growing and learning about life. They do what we do not what we say as you’ve no doubt realised by now.
On the flipside (yes there is always a flipside, sorry to be the breaker of bad news but it too is perspective) our emotions can wreak havoc not just on ourselves but others as well. Are you meant to feel guilty about that? NO. Are you meant to own it? YES. Is it your fault? Not necessarily. It can be many factors and for various reasons…
BUT here’s the great news:
We just don’t understand what a negative emotion is trying to tell us, or else we would listen and make choices that would help us take control and direct them properly ,rather than being led by them, sometimes into a shark-cage and in some cases we become the shark. It’s bad enough others don’t understand why we do what we do but when we ourselves don’t understand why, it adds another layer of complexity to the problem.
Another MASSIVE factor is your gender difference. Every single cell in your body is your gender so Physically, Psychologically and Hormonally you are unique female being and emotion is a part of your innate design.
The ability to control your emotions begins AFTER the removing of old patterns, limiting beliefs and pain that has been too long held inside of you. Also, getting yourself life changing ‘tools’ to keep yourself cleaned out afterwards. We all know we SHOULD break these patterns and cycles but what most don’t know is HOW to do it. Here’s the reason for our negative emotions…
The 6 POSITIVE REASONS you Feel Negative Emotions:-
1. It could be your UNCONSCIOUS MINDs way of communicating to get your attention. The stronger the emotion the more it needs your attention. One of your unconscious minds jobs is to keep you safe, protected and in sync with your own higher good. It’s a signal so take time to listen. What have you been doing that brings on the feelings? What is the trigger?
2. It’s that time of the month (wait a week if still happening it can be one of the following…). There’s a beautiful symphony of goings-ons behind the scenes inside of you at any one time. We spend a lot of time educating women in this area, because many parts of us are linked up by nature we should at least get educated on what directly effects our lives. Did you know that hazy-brain time of the month co-incides with your cycle and your ‘sharp as a tack’ stage also is virtually predictable. The emotional aspects and how to control them have never been taught to us, until NOW.. Imagine all teens knowing about this… The girls won’t think they are going nuts and unpredictable and we could teach the boys this also so they understand why females do what they do too.
3. A sign to STOP, Assess and make a Decision. Too often in life we avoid making decisions so we are causing ourselves to keep feeling bad. We perceive there is no choice when there is almost always choice however to see it you can need help getting out of your own way to see the trees clearly and not the whole forest.
IF IT PERSISTS beyond the top 3 it might be:
4. Your intuition is telling you something so come out of denial. (Change MUST happen for it to stop) Its very likely yelling at you to WAKE UP and deal with ‘stuff’ and pull your head out of the sand.
5. Suppressed Emotion surfacing that was buried so deep your unconscious mind, for whatever reason, thinks now is a good time for you to deal with it before you get sick. In this case you need to get your life learning’s to make it stop (The uniquely female minded process called CREATRIX® does just that). Then you can get back to healthy mind and body…
6. Not living in alignment to your highest values. This also requires change or decisions.
Please don’t dismiss your negative emotions and especially don’t learn to COPE WITH THEM. The definition of ‘cope’ means to not even try to get rid of them but to actually push them down and pretend they don’t exist and ‘get by’ with them. This causes the suppression of emotions that fester inside of you.
There is no HOPE in that approach when nowadays there are processes that really do WORK and long term as well. There really is a solution now, regardless of whatever past experience you’ve had with other processes. You NEVER give up the fight to be happy and let go of the ACCUMULATED poisonous emotions. You face them head on, own them, deal with them, get the life learnings from them, let go and then move forward.
How well are you doing the process of stabilising your emotions because it’s worth addressing. Your children or those who look up to you will do what you are doing and how you are doing it. Get rid of them from your system for more than just your own reasons.
You see, if you think you see a snake on a path in front of you or whether there is a real snake, your body reacts PHYSICALLY the EXACT same way.
The same amount of stress hormones (blend of up to 1200 of them) and adrenaline courses through your veins in an instant, bathing every single cell in your body, so therefore what you perceive through your invisible mind that you turn into emotion, DOES DEFINITELY AFFECT YOU PHYSICALLY.
That in itself is enough reason to get help and get it over with, so you can effectively navigate with the future negative emotions helping guide you. Don’t hate your negative emotions, they are a part of you. It’s just the language your body uses to talk to you and guide you. It’s your navigational life GPS when you know how it works.
This could be you very soon:-
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Some women suffer more adversity and have more life challenges and obstacles to overcome than others. Why is that? Is it bad luck? Is it the law of attraction? (better bloody not be I hear some of you say because that’s just stupid considering some of the hideous acts, unjust events and horrendous things that happen in life) Is it because you deserve it? (Not my words, some people actually tell me they think that) Is it because it’s your lot in life? Is it because of something you were told as a child?
Well all I can say is that if it wasn’t bad luck for me to be a 3rd generation domestic violence sufferer (each with guns involved), a 2nd generation childhood sexual abuse (my daughters were the 3rd), rape, single mum living in hiding with 4 small kids on my own, cyclic doomed relationships etc, then what was it about ME? It’s hard not to think like that. Obviously it ran deeper than being just about me but I’ll refer to that reason later.
Some people are way ‘unluckier’ than I was and it breaks my heart. Will we ever know why bad things happen to good people? I doubt it, but all we can do is share our learnings so others may not have to suffer like we did. Do you agree? The positive to come out of any of life curve balls would have to be the life ‘learnings’, if we’ve been in the right head space to get them of course. I wonder what yours are? Have you ever taken stock of them?
I remember dragging myself to a psychiatrist several times during my life, however the time I went to see this one in particular was when I’d been living in hiding for almost a year. I remember as I sat in his office, after soaking many tissues and spilling my guts all he had to say was, you’re not going mad, everything makes sense for what you are going through. Well, that was NOT what I wanted to hear. I wanted to hear you ARE going mad and we will help you now and you can go to sleep and realise it was all just a bad dream. Instead I had to simply walk out and go pick the kids up from school and live another unpredictable terrifying day.
Some of the things I went through are too horrific to discuss here however I will say that my suffering was not in vain. In fact it’s made me so strong I now know nothing can take me down.
If I didn’t eventually DECIDE to turn my life around, take stock of my learnings and refuse to continue the cycle (even if it did take me 30 years) the Institute of Women International would not exist. A cosmetic company would have missed out on at least $30,000,000 (that’s a lot of lipstick for someone who never used to wear it) in sales. I wouldn’t have written a book. I wouldn’t have been able to fund some of my children’s important milestones and travel overseas several times a year for 14 years. I wouldn’t be able to donate to charities as I like to do. The thousands of women I now know I would never have met.
In fact, its bloody scary to think where I would be. ‘Dead’ would not be an underestimation and quite probable. I was spiralling pretty badly in the end. My cycle was out of control and heading down a very steep slope FAST.
You see I found myself on the floor of a phone box in the middle of nowhere and when I sat up and looked outside over the bonnet of my car and headlights, through the windscreen I saw 4 little kids and a dog playing and I knew, in that super silent moment that life HAD TO CHANGE.
Finally I saw my life like never before. The raw truth of my accumulated life choices were staring back at me. You see after you have an epileptic fit (that was my first one ever at 30+ years old) there is this total silence where you are without your fears, emotions, beliefs, misty stained glasses of disillusion or even your wits. What was with me was just love and quiet. Pure love and in that blessed moment I knew there was no turning back EVER from the silent vow I made to myself, or what would come of my kids? They never asked for this crap. That decision was set in concrete and that was that. I WOULD CHANGE OUR LIVES FOR THE BETTER!!!!
What I learnt FIRST and foremost and I know HAS TO HAPPEN for anyone to turn their life around is to make a ‘no option’ commitment to yourself that you will DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to make life better. That was definitely THE FIRST STEP IN A FORWARD DIRECTION for us.
Thats not easy as some of you will attest to. In fact life did get worse after than BUT as I lay there in the foetal position, feeling crushed yet again, I still knew I would not go back to my old ways. I lay crying, praying I guess you’d call it. I was simply asking out loud through my tears for an ‘opportunity’. I pleaded into the nights for about a week. My prayers were answered. Was the opportunity at the time obvious? NO! Did I seize every opportunity? YES! I become bolder and put myself out there.
Wind my life 20 years forward and I have to say I have never gone backwards from that moment.
So what did it take? Well, it’s taken the commitment mostly along with educating myself on how my mind was holding me back and how to not allow that to happen by me taking over and knowing when it was just tricking me, or recognising when it was just an old habit trying to come back. There’s always a ‘test’ after a commitment and even that’s not real, its just a play from the unconscious mind.
so why 30+ years of pretty severely bad s$%T of a similar nature and then 18 years of a blessed life that has its ups and downs and losses and all sorts of things happen, however never have I gone back in financial abundance or contentment. My desire to empower other women was born from my adversity. What will be born of yours? Could your purpose lie in the learnings that stem from your adversity too? Often people find their life purpose hidden more in their struggles than their triumphs.
Bad luck does tend to follow pessimism and feeling hopelessness in plague proportions. Whenever I get pessimistic where I’m asking problem-based questions (eg. Why me? Why now?) that have no answers and not solution-orientated ones (eg. what can I do to improve this?), I feel myself slipping back. That’s when I know I have to snap out of it or it will begin the cycle again. I wake up again. HOPE comes from empowering yourself with the facts without emotion. You made it this far and you’re ok. Why think you won’t make it all the way and be ok?
We’ll never know why bad stuff happens that is tragic, and frankly I don’t think we will, however to be strong and to roll with the really bad stuff that can happen in life, it takes developing your mental muscles, being able to self talk yourself out of the darkness. It takes knowing it won’t last and that you WILL be ok. Self development, self growth and self understanding HAS to happen for life to change.
To make new choices takes a NEW mindset.
It takes understanding how your own mind works. I personally have spend tens of thousands of dollars just learning how my mind works and it’s made me much more money in return and will continue to for my entire life. AND most of all I am happier, healthier (no more epilepsy), gave up smoking and lost weight to name just a few other benefits.
Don’t be afraid to put yourself first and invest in your personal self development and improvement. I see now in hindsight that the reason for my old life story to be worth anything at all, my learnings have to be passed on. I cannot sit idly by and watch women not take action to better themselves when they are so miserable or struggling because of silly beliefs about themselves.
Challenges are a part of life, however, the cyclic nature of similar types of events or ones that make you feel in a similar state (mine was rejection and fear mainly as well as many more), you DO have way more power over than you give yourself credit for. Did you know we even inherit a pre-disposition for certain experiences to occur? Yes it’s true according to the science of epi-genetics. In fact there’s an epigenetic university near you they are that common however they intend to find a pharmaceutical solution. Take matters into your own hands ladies and experience some of our solutions to this.
That is why I am about to release a 100% ONLINE self development Course VERY SOON. Its HOW TO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND IN 8 HOURS.
Stay tuned ladies if you are interested.
Why not share YOUR life learnings in the comments below that you’ve had over the years, especially the first biggest ones that caused you to change your ways and find more happiness. Anything that you realised that made you have less bad experiences in a certain area of your life.
What if one simple little pleasant daily habit could make your dreams be realised?
A new year brings thoughts of change. Renewed hope! Another chance to do better than ever before. It feels good too, however if the last year sucked, we don’t want to repeat the pattern so change is the only way to break that cycle. We don’t want another ground hog year.
Lets face it, change is not often easy. If it was you would have been doing that thing already and not still needing to change.
Here’s some of the New Year Resolutions we’ve heard, what’s yours?
1. Find a better relationship
2. Find a better career
3. Get healthy
4. Lose weight
5. Give up a non-serving habit that sabotages us in some way
What makes us change anything at all? Well usually its something that is not already familiar or it’s likely uncomfortable and has short term pain attached and who wants pain right?! It’s going to mean remembering to do something different to what we are used to and with so much to remember already, one more thing can feel like it could topple us if we are leading a hectic life. What if there was one little thing that would support all change, regardless of what it is, and help remove the pain part to keep you on track? Staying positive, motivated and on track is the hardest part of any achieving anything.
What’s the one thing that could support any change you decide to make that would have the biggest impact and assist your new years resolution and yet be enjoyable? What if you’ve heard of it before but you didn’t really fathom it’s potential in YOUR life or how to do it properly. You probably didn’t have it spelt out to you in real terms that lay out the very real and personal impact to YOU in YOUR life and longterm happiness and health but also short term.
Well, its not quite meditation although it could be called that. Its not just visualisation, its more than that. You see, it achieves not only calm in the middle of stress but it causes hope in the middle of doubt. Doubt is the deepest root of failure whereas stress, worry and procrastination are just symptoms. Whats the opposite of doubt? Its knowing you WILL achieve it right?! So here’s how to get the unconscious mind to ‘buy in’ to your goal too and set about supporting you to achieve it, even while you sleep.
(Feel free to print these instructions)
Ok so here’s the one thing (delivered in steps just like following a recipe) that will make the biggest impact on your chances of success and it takes just a few minutes a day.
- Choose an uninterrupted time of the day.
- Turn off all noise, devices etc.
- Go to the loo and get comfortable temperature wise.
- Sit upright with your feet on the ground and your hands in your lap with palms up.
- Close your eyes
- Take 3 deep long breaths by counting to 4 on in-breath, hold for 4, out for 4 and do that 3 times. (to clear your mind just focus on your breath)
- Create in your minds eye an ‘image’ of yourself in the EXACT moment you will achieve your desired outcome.
- Ensure you can see it in full color, notice everything, hear the sounds you will hear and notice how wonderful you feel.
- Breath normally now and you take it all in.
- Watch the movie play out and make sure you can see YOURSELF in the movie.
- When you’ve got that clear float down inside the ‘you’ that you see in the image and see it all as if you are fully experiencing it for real.
- FEEEEEEEEEEEEELLLLL the feeling. Where in your body do you feel this feeling? Is it in your chest or your tummy or where?How big is it? Turn it up a notch of intensity. Mmmmm feel it full on.
- Notice what you SEE and HEAR. Make sure its in full ‘stereo’ sound and high definition colours that are most pleasing to the eye. Soak it up for a minute or 2.
- Now float out of your body and go back to the first picture again where you could SEE YOURSELF IN THE PICTURE (most important step of all)
- See it one last time.
- Open your eyes and ask yourself what ONE THING you could do right now to move you closer to that outcome and DO IT. You’ll really feel like it. Its more powerful than anything you can do daily as you’ve included your unconscious mind in on the goal.
There you have it. A simple little CREATIVE VISUALISATION for real change. This alone can cause you to encounter freak events so you meet who you must, to do what you must, to be blessed with the pathway for it all to happen. Enjoy the results ladies. Of course our courses includes many many many processes for change.
Print that list and do it regularly and let us know how you like it. Its quick, becomes a habit and is fun and easy.
Please leave us a comment so we know what you think.
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