Have you heard or even said those words?
Today I sit and ponder ‘suppressed emotions’ that many masked women have buried so deeply that I see percolate in subtle ways as behaviour.
The most suppressed emotions women have are hate and hurt and yet they are the most denied.
This is from EXPERIENCE after removing hundreds of womens surface emotions that they think disguise these so well to the point of being 100% denied. Then once they settle finally these ones are fully felt because their mind now thinks they are ready to deal with it.
(Suppressed emotions are only ‘suppressed’ because your unconscious mind doesn’t think you are ready to deal with them, they are at a very deep level and mostly the opposite of what one THINKS is the problem. eg. feeling anger and rage is most likely hurt, feeling fear and inferiority etc is often hate or anger)
Hate is such a dirty word and we are told WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT EVER HATE. I even said it to my children.
So why should it be the only ‘feeling’ we deny at all costs, even our own health? Because we’ve been TOLD it’s bad, that’s the only reason why. Because we don’t like it. We think its ‘evil’. The truth is, if it’s there it’s there. To deny it means to never get help.
Could it be so denied for so many decades that it is festering away beneath all of the anger, fear, resentment, anxiety, self loathing, low self-esteem, suppression, overwhelm, and all the many things women present to us with? Of course its very few who will admit to feeling it or even allow the possibility.
So does denying it make it not real? Does feeling hate mean you are a bad person? NO NO AND DOUBLE NO!!! It means you are HUMAN and simply have a lesson to get. THAT’S ALL IT MEANS. We are not our feelings or our behaviours or beliefs (truths that some will die for). We are wayyyyyyy MORE than that.
Why are we allowed to feel fear yet not hate? I know many won’t fully get this message because it will press your anti-hate buttons but at least consider….. Is fear ‘prettier’ than hate? More acceptable? We know that anger, fear, sadness, guilt, shame and resentment all cause health issues however I want the world to confront hate and GET RID OF IT but first by owning it (acknowledging it) else you cannot get rid of it.
CREATRIX removes all of the above in less that hours!!!! IT REALLY DOES LADIES. FROM LIFETIMES OF TORMENT TO NEUTRAL by having you discover your own life learnings in record time.
Its about getting the learning so you can let go of the charge entirely instead of ‘coping’ which just causes suppressed emotions because ‘coping’ is about allowing them to boil away inside of you causing dis-ease in the body because then you don’t have to ‘feel’ something at full force. AND that was very useful BEFORE Creatrix.
Its about admitting you are human, own it, get what you need to learn (via CREATRIX) then letting it go from your body and mind. So THEN you can be free to break the cycles that run as deep as ‘hate’ and ‘hurt’ that most of the world is denying because our cultures suppress it even further via denial and disgust.
WE NEED MORE FACILITATORS TO DO CREATRIX because women are awakening to our amazing process that strips out ALL past conditioning, regardless of how deep it runs.
SEE OUR WEBSITE FOR MORE DETAILS. The courses are level 1, get yourself cleaned out and learn the basics and also become certified as an EMPOWERMENT INTERVENTION CONSULTANT. Level 2, become a Creatrix Facilitator and ADVANCED Intervention consultant. Level 3, run retreats and do many women at once.
TOGETHER WE CHANGE THE WORLD BY SETTING WOMEN REALLY and TRULY FREE. Let’s remove the problems from the roots and not teach ‘coping’ when we don’t have to anymore.
Don’t get us wrong, we loooooove honour and support AWARE, RESPECTFUL men who support women, just as we encourage women to love, honour and support these men, however we also see what’s happening around the world and talk to many women. At least 3/4 of these women are not happy, feel stuck, empty and unfulfilled in their relationships with men, many of whom are suffering at the hands of men who just don’t have equal respect for women in matters of importance and sometimes in life in general.
We do also hear of men experiencing having to walk on eggshells due to the unpredictable outbursts from the women and feeling victimised by them, however women suffer proportionately more and this in no way means this behaviour is acceptable either.
Communication is desperately needed, not for the sake of it or communication that hasn’t previously been working, but really deeply understanding each other first so that we can communicate to ensure the other hears what is really being said, and feeling what the other has to say. Positive outcome based intentional conversations are called for like never before.
Just because gender or partner abuse may not affect you or I or be something we are exposed to personally, it takes all of us together as a gender to make changes that are necessary for our sisters in particular who don’t share the same privilege as us, in having great men support them, who are consciously ‘aware’ men that respectfully value women and treat them accordingly.
In reference to the image here, it’s no wonder women crave not just acceptance for being ‘enough’ but respect for being just as valuable a human being as a man. We are the granddaughters of the women in the photo. That’s actually not that many generations back to not still be having an effect on our generation and therefore we are passing on that awareness unconsciously that brings about the feeling of being ‘less than’.
We’ve a ways to go however we at Institute of Women International are not just wishing for change, and we are not angrily protesting as a gender, we are choosing to bring about awareness to women and men, through peaceful encounters, love and honouring. It’s all been a misunderstanding through perception and old outdated beliefs, ego and ways that may have been justified back at the beginning but simply serve no positive purpose.
Beliefs can change by choice however if we use their own innately translatable language and metaphors to converse in and members of their own gender to bring that awareness about we can finally change the trajectory of the future for a peaceful and loving example for our children and theirs alike. It’s really not a lot to ask for…
Suppression of our gender is still evident in many areas of importance such as politics for one not to mention the workplace and still sadly many households.
The story this image represents is only 90 years ago, so imagine the many hundreds of centuries before that that we’ve inherited as a deep gender suppression that causes many women to feel ‘less than’ so it’s no wonder women suffer so many emotional issues such as a lack of self-worthiness, self-doubt, fear of the future of not being loved, fear of men, scarred by domestic violence, feel unheard and not important.
We see an epidemic of women right here in Australia, average women approx 2/3 who are not feeling happy, loved and valued. When they open up to us (even the seemingly well put together women who most think are perfect and idealistic) and we dig deep, we discover hurt at the core of most women that many feel they’ve always had. This hurt ricochets and reflects throughout their lives and onto those around us, creating chaos and misery, causing them to make poor choices, set poor examples for our children, feel insecure and end up in a cycle of self-sabotage that continues to sprinkle our lives with havoc. Many women feel trapped in relationships (not just intimate relationships, sometimes at work through harassment) because they are scared to leave because “better the devil you know than the one you don’t” is the attitude of many women as the by-product of this past suppression.
We are getting back our strength through cutting edge programs coming into existence. Creatrix™ being one such process that builds up a woman from the inside out. Many other programs are working on this very global program also with great success, it’s just many don’t even know there is a super fast way to do it because they are still using outdated processes that men likely designed.
Many women are gathering and ‘supporting’ each other without knowing how to fix the core issues that are deeper than any conscious discussion can shift, due to centuries of deeply ingrained unconscious suppression at a genetic level. IOWI intends to heal women and put them on the pathway to a better life and break the cycle once and for all. Facilitators of course are very much needed (seeking 1000 in 2014 alone here in Australia) as the Creatrix™female minded process needs WOMEN who want to be at the forefront of creating REAL change for the future of our children and the generations to come. Trainers are sought also in this ground breaking female based transformative process.
When women do the same work as men and are paid 17% less in leadership roles, this is a penalty (no different from fining us for the length of our skirt because we weren’t exactly fining them for the length of their shirt sleeves) applied simply for having been born with a vagina and not a penis. Paint it up as pretty as you like, it comes down to that simple undeniable fact. Don’t you think it’s time we stepped up the talks? Peaceful meaningful ones?
We’ve been led to believe gender equality has come a long way and in some areas it has. Its good that there are now men who are coming round steadily to the fact that we deserve to be treated as equally valuable contributors and should have equal say as influential leaders and decision makers. Imagine women counselled for our valuable input, an input that considers the longevity of our planet’s people because they are our babies, after all, and we instinctively put them first, it’s a part of our biology. A grandmother or mother will always consider her offspring, so I’d say that’s amazing leadership right there?! Bloody awesome leading, (the kind a planet that must survive LONGterm) when we are talking about the future beings who will be left our legacy, the bi-product of our decisions don’t you think?
In fact, women have much to offer of extreme value and if realised long ago the state of the planet and the well being of the people would be in a very different situation, basically a heck of a lot better. Let’s hope it’s soon that we get the opportunities to actualise our innately female potential for the betterment of this planet’s future inhabitants, before we have nothing left to hand them accept misery on a planet with no resources and lonely lives.
We at Institute of Women think falling in love with ourselves and respecting ourselves and valuing ourselves will enable us to show men how to love and honour us because we won’t put up with anything else. That’s why our processes exist and why we work with the women. We believe the women becoming whole and feeling complete is the best step to take to create a better future for all, women, men, boys and girls.
Written by Maz
How to Live a Richly Rewarding Life
- Know People, Understand & Treat Them How THEY Need It
- Communicate Your Needs in Relationships
- Celebrate Your Female Difference
- Choose to Live and Work with Meaning and Purpose
- You Are Already Whole And Complete (more…)
Women are remarkable and resilient and it’s never too late to change your life. YOU are remarkable, in case you don’t believe me let me show it to you.
It’s been a while since I shared my story and I was reminded that it has inspired thousands of women and many to change their lives, so I hope it inspires you or someone you know. I hope to draw out your inner little girl who may need inspiration, hope or just to know we all have a little girl inside us that needs to dream and believe and know that is where your power lies……
This is my story excerpt from a recent article:
Marylin Schirmer is an ordinary woman who has had her fair share of failings, misery and excuses and also has a lot to be grateful for. Her father disliked her and her mother had her own problems as she herself suffered violence at his hand and so for her was about keeping him peaceful, at all costs.
Marylin is an eldest daughter of 3 siblings, a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 6. She dropped out of high school at 14 year old to become a check-out chick, a factory worker, packed Coles shelves at night, a waitress and pregnant barmaid with no ambition due to her lack of belief in herself, but she always felt deep down inside of her, an inkling that there had to be more to life.
Statistically however she should be DEAD. She continued the cycle of her mother and hers before her and so the first 33 years of her life were filled with terror, torment, abuse, incredibly low self-esteem and worthiness and she became a frequent dweller of Women and Children’s safe-houses. She was even asked to move on when she became a severely high risk to the others in the shelter as her partner kept finding her.
She hit rock bottom when her and her 4 children fled to a nowhere town; 3,000 + kilometers from anything and anyone she knew. Here she was in hiding for over 400 days. Every day she sat at the window and wondered if this was the night that her ex-partner and his shiny sawn-off stainless steel shotgun that the police never managed to locate, would find her. Her anxiety and fear levels were constantly high for at least 30 years of her life having had guns at her head on many occasions. (Strangely coincidental that guns were involved in the violence of her mother and grandmother. To further understand this phenomena of cycles research the science of Epigenetics or see one of our recent facebook posts called ‘Grandma’s experiences leave a mark on your genes’)
Still years later after she’d returned to her home town her life was still in danger and things went from bad to worse, from destructive relationships to even worse. She knew she was stuck in a cycle but it seemed to be escalating and so her anxiety became severe panic causing major health problems. It was then that she was told by the ‘system’ she couldn’t be granted any more protection orders or receive any more help and it was suggested she move permanently from her hometown.
The last assistance offered was the suggestion of a relocating and they would offer temporary in a town 800km’s away and so she left. She then experienced what she calls a ‘bleep’ moment. After suffering her first ever epileptic fit in a phone box on her way to relocate she awoke in total silence and for the first time ever saw the impact her life choices were making on her 4 children. There and then Maz decided to turn this relocation into an opportunity, so at 30 years old she turned her life around and never looked back.
On a whim she was accepted into a company that was listed as a Fortune 500 company and in the top 10 companies for women to work. Determined to break the generational pattern that her life followed she worked hard but it was the true stories of women who’d overcome diversity that fuelled her spirit.
Imagine the little girl within her as they handed her an award on stage at the Melbourne Convention Centre that said they’d paid her more than one million dollars…… For more than 10 years she experienced continual success in the top 1-7 in that organization nationwide. She had swapped the cycle of doom with the cycle of success.
In 2009 when the world was in the worst Global Financial Crisis, she tripled her income (receiving $27,000+ in just one month) and went on to break a 43 year Australian sales and leadership related records which she still holds to this day. She became number 1 in 10 countries by leading highly motivated teams of women to success through her love of her people, inspirational speaking presentations and setting the example.
Maz is now an author, international motivational speaker and founder of the Institute of Women. Her ‘The Maz Factor’ is a transformational handbook that combines Marylin’s gutsy true life story with the life changing systems that she used to go from desolate check-out chick to Millionaire status; something she openly shares today with her seminar audiences and through her unique course training program.
She has also been a regular on the ABC Radio as the expert commentator for the ‘Soul’ Section well known to her NSW audience.
After 5 years in the planning process, she has finally rolled out her biggest project yet with a big vision for women globally. The Institute of Women delivers a complete success solution through courses and seminars using the exclusive transformational processes that Marylin has created through years of experience and research. One is an entire success transformational process called The TRILLENIUM EFFECT and the other is a personal breakthrough experience called ReGENERATION™.
With three businesses now thriving, she openly shares her secrets to success in this three level course with you and in her FREE 1 day events travelling Australia at present.
She is determined to fulfill her mission to transform women globally to be able to ‘live without limitations’ so her courses are designed to maximize the most in each woman.
Maz says “If I can exchange a 30 year destructive cycle into a consistently abundant one, anyone can”
Click here to buy a copy of her book ‘The MAZ Factor’
To attend one of her FREE 1 day events in a city near you and get not just inspired but aMAZing success and life education, click here.
So how do we get more love?
First know what it means to you….
Love! I think this word would have the most interpretations of any word in the our language.
CHECK OUT the different meanings and associations.
Did you know that a baby boy follows movement of your entire face whereas a girl baby looks more at the finer facial expressions.
The genders are programmed like this so that a a female can recognise subtle clues to how another person is feeling. The male is programmed for movement thus their love of sports and balls and people moving around spacially. For females this is so that we can later recognise the unconscious needs of our babies. For males this is so that they can see if something is invading the camp and they need to protect us or go hunt which requires noticing movement amongst the still environment.
In bodies of knowledge such as NLP (discovered by men) they assume that we all can ‘learn’ rapport to achieve ‘sensory awareness’ by this major conscious intention of reading facial subtle shifts and matching and mirroring others but actually, women have this ability as an innately female trait. In fact, the more a male stresses the less he can recognise the emotions and subtle cues of others. Under brain scans conducted on the genders at Dr Amen clinics scans proves this as areas of the brain are lighting up in different areas during simple conversation. What this can mean is that when we most expect our male partners and sons to pay attention to our subtle cue’s and read our moods etc. they in fact cannot. When we realise this fact we can simply adjust to being more direct when they are under stress and not expect them to be tuned in as we are.
In the workplace this is obvious when a woman wants to climb to a position of leadership and expects that the boss will ‘notice’ her qualities whilst a man will simply voice his qualities and then he gets the job. Women are more inferential, this means that we expect others to read us when we don’t directly tell someone what we want.
A great test for this is simply say you are thirsty and watch the 2 gender differences. The majority of men will not respond wondering why you are not getting yourself a drink. The woman will most likely ask you if you want a drink.
Why is this important? Well it means we already can do rapport extremely well. We communicate with our thousands of words and tens of thousands of daily thoughts we produce all whilst doing rapport at an unconscious level. That makes us naturals at rapport. In fact I found I had to let go of ‘trying’ to do rapport consciously and go back to trusting that I already do it and that’s one less thing to worry about, especially when working with people in business.
I am telling you ladies, we are amazingly under-utilised for our innate strengths but not when you become aware of it and start to trust your amazing female self. We are acutely aware of those who surround us. Our sensory acuity is crisp. This means we are extremely gifted.
Why else is this important? Well it means we are natural leaders of women, healers, we are natural interviewers, we are natural counselors. Also due to our extra large limbic system (the part of us where emotions originate) we empathise more easily with others. How great is this if you are a coach or a mentor or a trainer? It’s brilliant! We are natural leaders!!! Yep, we lead our children, we lead our households (shhhh but yes we do have way more influence than we give ourselves). In fact the problems we have in leading can only occur from feeling suppressed. This is when we stop leading naturally. We stop leading ourselves and then we lose our confidence leading, especially those we don’t have an emotional investment in such as in the workplace.
Attend one of our seminars or put yourself through our courses and get rid of those silly blockages that stop you realising, activating and utilising your innate leadership qualities.
What if a POSITIVE attitude isn’t all it’s cracked up to be??
Could we have it wrong? Most people do who are into self-help.
I KNOW money ALWAYS flows, it’s never a problem of ‘it stops when I get negative and flows when I am positive’. Around the issue of income I am always unwaveringly in the state of KNOWING and doubt does not exist around money coming into my life, regardless of whether I am positive or negative, so what matters most?
The direction of your negative energy matters more than the negative energy itself. I hope that makes sense. Negativity focused on a solution versus focused on the problem; Both are still around the negative but they can produce 2 entirely different results. Most people don’t know this and get it wrong and then stay away from all negative environments entirely. That won’t change the world for those who are suffering. We need to go in and be able to handle it by choosing to be solution focused in that environment instead of being problem focused in that environment. Where we come unstuck is when we end up getting frustrated by focusing back on the problem and not the solution. You need to have tools to rid the anger rather than remove yourself from the negative altogether as most do.
The biggest solutions ever created were created by studying and being around a negative problem but with a solution focus and not a problem focus.
If you’ve read a lot of self-help books and attended many seminars you may have been led to believe that when you are negative bad stuff happens and when you are positive good stuff happens.
Please explain then why and how we will ever help the disadvantaged if we have to stay positive. Pretty hard to do if we have to avoid them to stay positive. This is important if you are a carer or want to help people, create solutions and leave a legacy that changed the world.
You can be around the most horrible ‘stuff’ and STILL do good and get a positive outcome. You cannot be a world changer by avoiding the area of pain and suffering all together. You just can’t. The problems facing many disadvantaged and suffering people need solutions by people who get this and stay solution focused regardless. Not that easy because you can get angry and frustrated at times as a difference maker, that’s why we teach techniques that control these emotional states so you can still get your results and not be affected.
The trick is to KNOW what you have to KNOW and if you see the suffering in situations or see the suffering only in a way that causes you to create a solution then you can be around all that negativity and create a solution and help them. The world as it is needs this from us.
In fact, it’s a matter of how you see those suffering as ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THEIR SUFFERING or IN THEIR SUFFERING WITHOUT A SOLUTION that makes the difference between having a positive impact or a negative one. Its not whether you chose to stay away from the disadvantaged and only hang with happy people and think only positive thoughts.
I know this flies in the face of what most people believe and even I used to believe this only 5 years ago, but we are an institute with a mature outlook and understanding of what it takes to make a real difference and we intend to focus on the problems women face and the problems of suffering of girls across the planet however with a SOLUTION FOCUSED OUTCOME and one thing is for sure, I KNOW KNOW KNOW that we will continue to create solutions for the problems facing women and girls today and in the future.
The world needs this as hiding from the truth of the suffering is useless and in fact ADDS TO SUFFERING, that would never help and the world will stay as it is.
We couldn’t have created a new psychology solution for women called CREATRIX™ if we didn’t entirely examine the problems and the suffering and torment many women face. It is the women who understand this more mature outlook on self-development that will be the ones to change the world and make a difference. And also the ones who will make the fortunes to fund such projects.
The price of perfectionism that is so common a desire for a lot of women is really not worth it. No one is perfect yet we often believe our role models are and that we should each be.
Here is a list from my experience what I discovered myself and through my business of the very expensive prices women make in their strive to be perfect rather than just their own best and accepting themselves and others as they are…..
- Love in your heart
- Peace for Those Around You
- Fun to be Around
- Light Heartedness
- Free Spirit
- Being Present
- Achieving your Potential
- Loving Yourself unconditionally
- Loving Others unconditionally
- Knowing you are Enough
- Accepting Others so Good Relationships
- Loving and Accepting your Body (affects weight)
- ‘Attraction’ energy (so less opportunities present themselves because you have a repellent type ‘energy’)
- Being a role model of the above list.
- Uninhibited in the bedroom.
Can you think of anything else I have left out?
Change your expectations with processes such as our CREATRIX™ designed for females to speed up getting the education you need to release perfectionism, as it’s detrimental to the quality of your life.
Whole, complete, enough, special, precious, nurtured, heard, beautiful, valuable, loved! When a woman feels these things she will soar, she will do anything for you, she will act out her fullest potential. She will be unstoppable and most of all feel fulfilled, centred, grounded and feel joy in her heart. You will love to hang with her.
Why aren’t we? Did you know that more than 80% of women DON’T feel most of the above? Is that good enough? What are we going to do about it?
Instead women are feeling trapped, stuck, so in their head they aren’t even noticing ‘life’. Many feel inadequate, devalued, unlovable, stressed, frustrated, unappreciated, unheard and not good enough.
Our latest research showed that 7 out of 10 women feel anger and 6 out of 10 feel fear, 7 out of 10 feel self-doubt, 6 out of 10 don’t feel confident and 8 out of 10 felt a low self-worth. 10 of the 10 we asked agreed that all of this was effecting others around them however they didn’t want to negatively impact those around them, especially their children who would carry Mum’s way of ‘doing life’ as their example into their future and relationships.
Whow!!!! What is going on? Ever noticed it’s a cycle and a pattern? Not just that we are recycling our own ‘stuff’ but that of our mothers and probably great great great grandparents as well. We inherit their struggles, beliefs and values in many cases, even the outdated and non-serving ones that may have been useful long ago but not in today’s world.
OK so that being known, what are we to do about it? Well here are 3 great steps you can take for yourself if you are in the majority as above to start your way out of the self-sabotage cycle.
1. Look in the mirror but not ‘at’ yourself, this time look into the soul through the pupils of the little girl that was once 2 years old who didn’t die. Look deeply to connect to her little heart within. You see, your body aged but your soul and spirit are still un-programmed with all the ‘stuff’ accumulated since. It’s not real, only perception. It’s that little girl who is the real you.
2. Once connected, treat her as you desire to be treated! Only ever speak to or about yourself as you would speak to an innocent child whom you loved as your own child and whom you wanted to grow up without any insecurities. Take her out and about, perhaps take her for a walk in the rain or a play on the beach or for an ice-cream. She DID NOT DIE!!!!! What might she like to do? In fact, her eyeballs haven’t even grown in size since she was 2. Oh she is precious alright, in fact, is it about time she got the love and treatment she always wanted and deserved? Guess what??? Only YOU can allow her that simple desire. YOU ARE THE GATEKEEPER to her happiness, no one else can make her feel all that she desires if you don’t make her happy.
3. Change your environment where necessary to support the needs and wants of a valued precious human being who expects to be treated well. Say NO where you too easily pleased others above yourself. Say YES to your own needs by putting yourself first. Put the oxygen mask on yourself if you are to help others anyway. It’s not selfish because remember, its not even all that about YOU! You affect those around you.
Be sure to let us know if you need help. Our seminars and courses are all designed to free women back to whole, complete and KNOW they are more than enough.
For Life Without Limitations
Leading Expert in Women’s Success Psychology.
This performance leaves you speechless. This weeks blog is for no other purpose that for you to enjoy.
Stories can be life altering…
Here’s to your story and one you are designing each day as your legacy story
Love Maz Schirmer