Hi – Maz here. I was interviewed on 90.3 ABC Sunshine Coast Radio last week to share my story of escaping domestic abuse. I wanted to share with you a portion of the interview and give you a link so that you can listen to the interview in its entirety.
My mother was the role of “victim” and my father was the role of “abuser”. They were my role models. As a child, that’s all you know.
Witnessing every Friday night domestic violence involving alcohol and guns. That become normal. For me, myself, I was being sexually abused by other men. Abused, unwanted, unloved as a child by my father who was my male role model.
Why is it so hard to escape a domestic violence situation?
When you are in it, the cloud, the gloom, the doom, the secrecy, the shame – everything locks you in to think there’s no choice. You haven’t had roll models to show you that there are. You feel very alone, even when you tell people. There’s a lot more help available now.
People need to know that there is hope. There are choices, it’s just that you can’t see it when you’re in it. You have to have faith that people have come through it. They have made it to the other side and they have broken that cycle. They created a new cycle and that is possible.
A horrible statistic – more than one woman per week is killed by their partner in Australia. We don’t hear about it. It doesn’t make the daily news.
Women need a different approach from men. Most self-development books originate from a male’s perception. Women can’t action it because of the emotional overwhelm and the turmoil inside is a little bit more. We’re not that logical.
I’ve spent 18 years now researching and learning skills and techniques so that they can make their breakthrough so that they can change their lives.
If you are in a cycle of abuse, I want you to know there IS a way out.
End the cycle of abuse now.
I welcome you to listen to my story:
Success is no accident! You cannot stay at the same level in emotional intelligence and mindset and expect to grow a business. Especially for women!!! As emotional creatures with innate fears we will kill our chances otherwise.
You TOO can have success when you realise it’s an inner growth journey FIRST, not an external growth. It starts with building YOU up on the INSIDE so you can do the process of creating success for yourself.
It’s a self-development journey or else you WILL sabotage your chances of success. You cannot stay at the same level in emotional intelligence and mindset and expect to grow a business.
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I would like to share something that’s very close to my heart and my personal story. I can’t begin to express how grateful and over joyed I am a present! As most of you know I have begun my journey with a very exciting business venture. And it’s because of this very unique and very special process that I was able to let go of Shame, embarrassment and pride to share it with you.
From the word go……every experience we are exposed to begins and continues to mould the people we become. Those experience impact us in either positive or negative ways, over time and from a very early age we start to develop our belief systems, our own personal take on life, our perceptions on the world around us and very importantly our perceptions on ourselves. During this time we start to collect baggage and put up walls to protect ourselves, because with each hurtful situation we feel heavier and more protective of our hearts.
For myself personally, I have encountered a number of situations that left me feeling vulnerable and traumatised. I have been the victim of sexual predators, i have been in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship, my best friend passed away well and truly before her time, I’ve lost a business, I’ve lost a house, I’ve had a very bruised ego, all kinds of every day experiences that took it’s toll leaving me feeling stripped and finally the mothership of all heart aches……being told our first born of 34 weeks was not going to survive the birth and would have a severe disability. This was the point where a part of me died and my heart had been broken in a way that I never thought possible. The guilt and grief I carried for nearly 7 years after his birth was well hidden but very raw.
Now my story might seem terrible to you or maybe your story is a lot worse then mine or maybe you have lived a very blessed life.
Either way the reason for me sharing this, is to show women that no matter where you are at in life, how much baggage you carry or what experiences you have encountered (being from a broken heart, extreme trauma, not having confidence in yourself, lacking self worth and anything else in between).
There is a very real and incredible solution to empower you and help you to be the best version of yourselves. My heart no longer feels heavy……it now sings with joy, my guilt and grief no longer weigh heavily on my shoulders…..I can now fully appreciate the gift my son is without the trauma attracted, my anger and frustration has melted away……allowing me to feel so much more in control (and yes I still yell at the kids because I’m still human hahaha) my worry, stress and fear…..is replaced with peace. Never before in my life have I ever felt so calm, so emotionally clean, light and peaceful!!!!
What you have created Marylin Schirmer is truly incredible and a gift every women should experience. I cant even begin to express how truly grateful I am and how very excited I am to be apart of it. I have gone from a incredibly highly strung worrier…… To an “almost” too relaxed woman with a new purpose and passion in life. My growth and personal development has not yet finished, it never will end…..because with each day and each year that goes by we are alway changing and moving with the flow of life. Nothing can ever stay the same…..we can either choose to learn from it and grow as a person or continue to feel stuck, never really moving forward.
I have taken part in other programs to help me move through my issues, however nothing really stuck. I had improvements but nothing soul shaking….. Not until NOW!!! If you are interested in learning more go to Maz’s website http://www.instituteofwomen.com she is the founder of this incredibly process. After June I will be qualified to change lives just as Maz has changed mine and how honoured I feel being apart of it. (FYI Maz’s personal story is worth a read…. Her life was very colourful!! And she over came some mind blowing situations.) she is living proof that you are capable of anything. Bless you Maz….you totally rock!! Xxx
Picture this… you are feeling rather tired, bored and lazy. You definitely couldn’t muster the energy to mop the floor. BUT what if I told you I would pay you $100,000 if you got up and did it now? Or I said I would take your most prized possession from you forever if it wasn’t done in the next hour? You would find the energy to mop the floor, right?
Every one of us has motivation and untapped energy inside us; we just need to know how to turn it on.
When we are born, we have everything we need to be installed to be massively successful in everything we do. Over time however with negative life experiences, we sometimes lose how to turn it on until the moment we need it to just keep breathing. Your talking and thinking patterns affect your motivation. They can get you out of procrastination mode or cause it to grow.
The main reason we procrastinate is when our inner ‘values’ (what is important to you) conflict with what you are trying to achieve.
This is recognisable by words such as ‘can’t’, ‘don’t’, ‘must’, ‘should’, ‘have to’ or ‘need’.
The uses of such words are powerful sabotages to our motivation; they leave us feeling bad and can shift us into procrastination mode. When your core values feel threatened, your unconscious mind (the part of you that stores the outcomes/emotions of past experiences; that allows you to drive your car automatically without conscious thought) steps in to protect you until the perceived threat is gone. Sometimes this sabotages the positive outcomes that would come from taking action.
Procrastination usually occurs when we subscribe to the ‘pain out-ways the pleasure’ syndrome. You may tell yourself that you really want a beautifully mopped floor but then your unconscious mind will try to protect by telling you that you are tired, that you can’t find the energy to get up. In this syndrome we find ‘excuses’ (oops I mean reasons) to not take action.
However when we are passionately and happily working towards something that is aligned with our values, the unconscious mind provides motivation from the inspiration seen in the positive outcome of every action we take. So getting back to our floor, what’s more important to you? What if you said to yourself ‘I may as well do it while you I am up’ or ‘I want to get fit and exercise so I might do it dancing to my favourite dance music and loud too, I love dancing’. Would that make you feel a little difference? Perhaps even a tad more motivated?
Language is Powerful!
Let me give you another example. You have decided to start an exercise program. Perhaps it is just that your clothes are getting too tight or you ‘don’t want to be fat anymore’. These are called ‘away from’ motivations because they cause a mind image of something you are trying to get ‘away from’. If the ‘value’ of health is not a priority for you, you won’t get motivated. You will however feel bad because you keep reminding yourself of what you currently have, what you don’t want and haven’t done.
What about if you wanted to start the exercise for instance to run a marathon instead? I bet that person you see jogging at the crack of dawn in your street would become a positive motivator for you as it would bring images of you successfully running your marathon.
Your unconscious mind would then create health as a high and positive value; it would attach your positive emotions to the image that you are seeing. Suddenly you are motivated! Procrastination to partake in exercise occurs when an ‘away from’ focus is created through self-talk such as ‘I NEED to LOSE weight’. The poor old unconscious mind doesn’t hear the words that don’t have pictures such as ‘lose’ and ‘need’ and does hear the words ‘weight’ or ‘fat’ because they are easily pictures of a weighty or fat body. This burns a negative picture of your current size into your mind causing frustration and disappointed feelings” that get attached to the ‘value’ and so you now have a cycle of getting fatter and yoyo dieting.
(Ask me, I used to be a lifetime member of weight watchers and also sureslim. In fact I was 30kgs heavier than when I began ‘diets’)
This definitely won’t help you to get up at the crack of dawn to run or walk. Your unconscious mind likes to have a positive reason (or a desperate one, yes negative motivates but never permanently, but temporarily like the threat of death from illness) to achieve something if it is to create a positive mind picture and subsequently the motivation when needed. A ‘towards’ reason creates a beautiful picture of the fit, thin, healthy you running, causing you to feel excited, energised and happy. The ‘away from’ reason picture shows you being overweight or bulging out of tight clothing, causing you to feel frustrated and disappointed or any number of negative emotions such as shame, embarrassment, guilt, sadness, depression which in turn keeps the cycle alive.
‘Away from’ motivation may work for the short term and sometimes we need that shock treatment, butit’s only powerful to get you started in most cases however occasionally I’ve seen it turn into positive emotions and mind images. eg. Heart attack client goes out to get fit to recover and ‘avoid’ another heart attack and falls in love with fitness. Have you ever seen that before? That’s very encouraging but it’s sadly not often enough for most of what the everyday person procrastinates. I have yet to see it work long-term if you don’t get success that you appreciate and value and if necessary have ‘dealt with’ the old emotions (if any) then new positive images are created through ‘DOING’ the work.
Eventually when tempted by a delicious looking vanilla slice, the negative image may have you saying ‘I am fat anyway so one slice doesn’t matter’ or ‘I will start again tomorrow’ which may never come. So to overcome this, sell yourself on the value of health and make sure it is a ‘towards’ value by writing out up to 200 towards reasons. The motivation of ‘health’ is better than the ‘away from’ motivation of need to exercise to NOT be fat. There are fast techniques that change your mind image in an instant and they are easy to learn. We teach them here at IOWI and will show you an exercise YOU can start doing right away.
I bet that regardless of how many failed attempts you may have made to lose weight; if your loved one suddenly got ill and needed something from you to survive but the doctors refused to operate until you lost 25 kilograms, I have no doubt that you would suddenly get very motivated and just do it. Do you know how many times I have watched business people only do something under threat, when it is do-or-die time; like making calls or doing the paper work.
In our personal lives we do it with bills. We wait until they are due and then say we cannot afford them. The truth is, we didn’t budget or think ahead because it not only was ‘away from’, there were other ‘away from’s’ inline first. The value of paying that bill was low our list and had a very ‘away from’ motivation picture attached to it. What if the value of the power bill was in fact appreciated because without it you would live a very different life? What if instead we paid a little (like $20) towards it each week? Imagine how exciting it would be to open your bill and see a credit. So now we have learned the how, why and when procrastination occurs now it’s time to learn the what.
What can you do about it to get started? TRY THIS…
Speak to yourself OUT LOUD (if you are wondering what to say, it’s just usually the opposite of what you have been saying that’s made you procrastinate) to create positive mind images, then DO what you are procrastinating about.
Start by challenging your beliefs about whatever area of life you want better results with. Take your stubborn beliefs to someone who is currently motivated to move forward. Ask them what they are doing and take them at their word. Ask them what they say to themselves just BEFORE they get up and do that thing.
Ridding procrastination is not the time to focus on being ‘right’. Who cares if you are anyway? Believe what you must to achieve what you want to accomplish. You will still get to be right in the end. You will also get what you have been looking for and maybe along the way found something you never knew you wanted.
Wouldn’t it be better to be right and happy than to be right and miserable? Remember that if the unconscious mind’s imagery is not bright and positive, it continues to attract more of the same. This is a cycle that we unconsciously create so by doing the opposite we can create a new brighter cycle. So let me leave you with this.
Nothing that happens to us has predetermined meaning!
The ‘meaning’ we choose to apply to an event (for whatever reason) or situation is what determines whether we are happy or sad, make good decisions or bad decisions, have a good day or a bad day or feel powerful or weak. The way your life goes and the power you have depends on how you apply meaning to an event or situation. Let me repeat this: Your power lies in how you point meaning to everything in your life. There really is no reason to stay stuck. Life’s too short to allow the self-sabotage and procrastination to continue. Part 3 of my book called ‘The MAZ Factor’ is called ‘Ignite the A.MA.Z.I.N.G. Factor in YOU’ has great do it yourself strategies or get help with someone who knows these advanced strategies for changing mind images automatically in an instant. We use our E.Q.U.I.P. processes so you can use them any time you want.
For info on our retreats (level 1 course) where we get rid of your old ‘baggage’, empty your head from your doubts and teach you to correct your own mind images for ever more in the future, click here.
The A.B.C.D.E. of a new SUPERSIZED Success
takes you Changing and Breaking your limited Cycle to Create a More Powerful Cycle. This is for those who want to update their success levels and take it to the next level which includes limitless possibilities…. Are you ready? Here it is….
A. AWARENESS– Become fully aware. Awaken and come out of any possible denial that’s been occurring. Own where you are at. Acknowledge you are NOT where you want to be, rather than settling for the status quo of your usual height of achievement because it’s easier. Own your stuff. Own what has to change. Admit you want more. Previously you might have stayed where you are because you didn’t know any other way but here and now you will, so have faith.
B. BELIEVE– Believe in the woman in the mirror, actually I take that back…Believe in the little GIRL in the mirror. The one that didn’t die, the one that was once a 3 year old girl with dreams to feel special and the one who didn’t beat herself up. The one who’s eyeballs share yours, they are the same, she didn’t die, she’s still waiting for recognition and doesn’t like it when she gets told she can’t do things. THAT little girl who always wanted to live fully and get to play rather than take on so much heavy and ‘serious’ responsibility. On that note, remember to play and have fun along the way and don’t take life so seriously.
C. COMMIT– If you do not get resolute about changing your circumstances or growing beyond your previous best then NOTHING WILL EVER CHANGE. Its about making it a ‘no option’. Perhaps the next one should come before this one so read on. There is no ‘maybe’, no ‘try’, no ‘I’ll do it for this long only and will see what happens’. They are weak energy and not commitments at all. They do not empower you with the energy you need to draw to you the set of circumstances needed for BIG change and different circumstances to occur and to bring different people into your life, those necessary to help you on your amazing journey that is possible.
D. DECIDE– Decide to NOT settle anymore. Decide you are moving forward and will do anything, including committing to this decision. Decide you are going to expand your business or be a better person or whatever else it is you are wanting better results with. Even if it’s not ever settling for being treated a certain way again by certain people. Whatever it is you are wanting, without a commitment you WILL NOT change anything, but FIRST it starts with a DECISION. Actually it starts with 2 decisions. The first is to commit to changing, the second is to commit to that commitment!
Lets face it, we ‘decide’ to lose weight, we ‘decide’ to not eat sugar because we know its bad for us, we decide we won’t smoke tomorrow or won’t drink as much alcohol or won’t accept being treated certain ways but we are not talking about decisions made in the sand like that. We are talking about making a decision in concrete. Once it’s made, commitment is made to lock it in, then we commit to that commitment. Sounds a little over the top but if you are serious about MASSIVE CHANGE and breaking through the glass ceiling, this is the way I PERSONALLY DID IT.
E. EXPECT– Just KNOW you are doing it instead of doubting. Remember, there is no ‘try’. That is B.S. Assume success and settle for nothing less. Close your eyes and think about something you KNOW to be true such as the sky is blue and sometimes cloudy. There’s no charge to that feeling is there? No, its not a pumped up hypo state of motivation. No, its bland but it has no negativity either. Its neutral. Depak Chopra says that is the space we all seek that brings about the most. What you know is a belief. Beliefs are knowings, they are truths. Know!
Stay away from the nay sayers. Turn off the news about the economy and how money is tight and all the gloomy news about the world. TURN IT OFF, watch a comedy instead. What’s great about the ‘knowing’ feeling is it has no thoughts that accompany it like ‘try’ does. Try creates the crazy loud thoughts of doubt. This can be mistaken for intuition. Its NOT!!!! Intuition has nothing to do with thoughts or feelings that stem from thoughts.
“I ‘will’ and I don’t know how but I just ‘know’ it will happen”, allows peace of mind and also it’s like the world shifts on its axis and all manner of circumstances come your way that never would have if you were in ‘try’ mode. If you fully get this you are seriously about to explode with success.
F. FAITH– Ok I know it was supposed to just be ABCDE but if I said ABCDEF you may have been overwhelmed and thought it was too hard but you know what? This signs the deal and gets you over the line by busting you through the previously undefined edge of your comfort zone which was limiting you. Are you ready now? Faith is a lot like ‘knowing’ as above. The only difference is, its a little more. Faith in what or who you ask? Who cares!!!! Faith is faith is faith. Its trusting wholeheartedly without any room for doubt. It helps you to KNOW.
Of course many people may find the above advice easy in words however may have to much history that will override you so you will struggle to follow this simple formula.
That is why I created CREATRIX™ (a 1 week course and amazing process) because I found from the decade and a half I was training women internationally and myself breaking national records and going from unemployed check out chick (single mum of 4 kids) who was living in hiding to becoming a millionaire and number 1 in 10 countries, I needed to find a way to help women make the shift more easily than I did.
So after studying the female mind and how it gets itself all twisted up with crazy doubtful emotions I had to design a simple way to strip that all out of a woman, regardless of what her past life was like so she too could experience a total success transformation. Then she too could achieve anything and turn her life around and not let her past dictate or determine her future.
Creatrix™Level 1 course is a simple yet amazing female breakthrough process that is held retreat style over a full week and also gives you the tools so you can help yourself should future doubts creep back in PLUS includes 12 months of follow up work. Anyway, that is available for you if you struggle to make this happen.
To your LIFE WITHOUT LIMITATION
Founding Director of Institute of Women International