Bare with me as I must share how I stumbled across this shortcut to life lessons.
My turning point occurred after my first epileptic fit at 32 years of age. What at first seemed like doom at that stage of my life, ended up being a blessing in disguise. You see after a fit the world is silent for just a moment in time. You get what I call a ‘bleep’ moment of clarity where you are without your self beliefs, your values, your anything, your thoughts, no past baggage at all, you just see it how it really is, without the defensive eyes of blame or victimhood or any of the pain from the past.
It was not when I was at the bottom (god knows there were a few) that I actually had my life pivotal moment that redirected my destiny, it was in fact when I simply had access to a moment of pure uninterrupted clarity (without any self talk) to see my life without the layers of my life’s conditioning.
In that ‘bleep’ moment I looked up from the floor of the phone box and over the headlights of my car and through the windscreen of my car. There I saw 4 little kids and a white dog and for the first time in my life I saw the accumulation of my life choices right there before me. 4 kids and a dog and we were heading away from all we knew, and headed for goodness knows where. Deep down I had a lowest of self esteem, no confidence, a lack of self trust and trust of others and I feared the future. I was full of self doubt and second guessed myself at every choice point in my past. Look where it had got me. I was up a creek without a paddle at that point in time.
I was living a cycle of self-destruction that perpetuated into a living nightmare, however to many I appeared ok on the surface. My kids were well dressed, I was doing what mothers do, putting my kids first and showing up with my ‘mask’ of ‘I’m fine’ on.
The choices I made in men particularly led yet again to taking my kids away from their friends and family. I gained the clarity that they were mostly my decisions that led me there, although I loved to blame everyone but myself, wind back far enough though and you’d find I made a choice at some point. I felt sorry for myself and had no idea any of my life was actually controllable. I felt like it was my lot in life to suffer or at least not succeed and I gave up on my dreams decades ago. Talk about a victim mentality.
Any venture I’d start I’d soon give up. What was the use, I was ‘destined’ to fail anyway I thought, UNTIL my bleep moment that was. What I learnt in that suspended brief window of clarity was that it was I who had to change, not anyone else because I couldn’t control them. The only choice of who and what I got to control originated from me, including gaining self-confidence and building myself back to whole, complete, happy and even successful beyond measure. If that was to be that was up to me. My moment of clarity put me back in control. Your learnings might be many. In fact I guarantee you will get hundreds using my shortcut method.
Until you have a bleep moment of clarity, you won’t change anything. That’s just how life is. Nothing like the truth to set you free, the truth of what is real and not what you have led yourself to believe regardless of how those beliefs come about.
My turning point led me from the lowest of self belief to believing anything is possible and that I control my life, no one else. This led me to go from an unemployed check out operator, single mother of 4 living in hiding, who’d dropped out of school at 14, who made rotten choices to becoming a successful entrepreneur who broke Australian company records leading to 30 million dollars in cosmetics sales and being the number 1 leader of women within that company in 10 countries including china. I really am not being egotistical here, I just want you to fathom what’s possible for yourself because we are talking about little old Marylin Schirmer from Flying Fish Point here. If I can change after a 32 year cycle of sabotage, what can you create given a good swipe of a clear slate??
What I’m most proud of is being a positive and proactive role model to 6 grand children and my 4 adult children now proving you can change your life if it sucks or you want a different outcome. The Institute of Women International is my newest endeavour and my biggest. I felt like sharing the story because most women don’t really know what we do as our marketing is not very clear however we are getting there.
But so what! Personal success is all wonderful for a while for anyone but well over a decade later I had an epiphany. Why was it always the same people succeeding, why no matter what I (or other leaders) taught women and shared about our strategies etc such as goal setting, consistency and plan your work and work your plan was that not enough for them to be where we were? We went off to the best guru’s (male) and accessed the best stuff out there to create change. Nope…. Just the same ones struggled and the same successful ones were successful.
I’d been trained by the best in self development and yet that wasn’t enough to help others when I passed it on to them. Some of my women wanted success more than I did. I lay awake wondering what I could do to help them. I really related to them because I was them once. I’d worked out how to be successful for myself but that wasn’t truly filling my cup, I HAD to help women who needed help. I knew I was meant to do that, I felt it was my purpose and it certainly was my passion.
I realised I HAD to devise a process that would help women to break through their inner limitations like I did so I could teach that process to women who lead or influence women so we can set women free all across the globe. I didn’t want them to have to get epilepsy for crying out loud, so at first I studied up to 18 hours a day how the female brain worked, and noticed we do it differently to men, and I realised that’s why most traditional self development doesn’t work for 4 out of 5 women. I researched Epigenetics (how we can inherit a predisposition to low self esteem and other issues from our ancestors etc) and how women’s hormones effect their brains at stages of life and stages of the month fully effecting their decision making capabilities therefore quality of success achieved. Its no longer nature versus nurture, the 3rd elemental factor is Epigentics. Its actual science and undeniable.
When you consider all of these factors you get a very clear picture of why female entrepreneurs and lots of women struggle to succeed at any area of their lives. They needed more than a bleep moment, the bleep moment would have to consider the whole woman and all of the above.
I had to consider that women already were using psychology and yet most still stayed with their self doubts, fears and anxieties. Some were using NLP but it would work on more current issues but not seem to capture the deep female suppression that’s been lying beneath the surface of many women. You name it, I know women who’d tried it and they weren’t delivering the woman the life learnings at their ‘core’ (as an undeniable knowing) so the issue and energy would return swiftly. We will simply not release an issue till we get what we needed to learn from it full stop!
Well I innovated a process after many years of research. Creatrix® is my creation that is a bleep moment stretched out over time to allow you to see for long enough to get the life learnings you’ve always needed to get, and it works in sync with the female brain/mind and scientific understanding of Epigenetics beautifully.
You don’t have to live your whole life to learn a life lesson wasting years trying to get it. Creatrix® is a shortcut way to access that. It’s the interpretations and perspective of our life through emotions, hormonal imbalances, mind filters such as values, beliefs, conditioning and insecurities that stop us from getting our life learnings. Imagine all of that suspended long enough to get what you need to learn so you are free to make a new life path for yourself…. Well Creatrix® is just that. Its very exciting if you imagine this for women in business, women who’ve suffered domestic violence or child sexual abuse or any woman. Imagine as a leader if you work with these women having this tool in your tool box….. What women would you help with it? Let us know in the comments area below.
Imagine this process in the hands of women of influence and holding retreats of women at a time to help even more people. When the woman changes, her whole family gets happier. Its women who will change the world. We are needed to not sit around waiting for help when it’s not coming any time soon. We have to take it in our own hands.
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The woman in the mirror is a remarkable person. If only you knew just HOW remarkable…